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Sex Playbook

Sex Playbook

Lifestyle Tips for Turning That Spark into a Fire

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Get back into
intimacy

Ready for some sexual activities? Then it’s time to get intimate. That means stripping away your inhibitions and embracing the man in you.

If it’s been a while since you’ve been sexually active, then it’s only natural that your sexual habits may have changed. That’s why it’s important to talk to your partner about your expectations and any fears you might have.

Lastly, don’t feel like you have to rush things. Start with little things like touch, and rekindle the physical intimacy part of your relationship. But when you are ready to get back in the saddle again—enthusiasm and curiosity are the healthiest ingredients you can inject into any relationship.
 
Talk to each other
You both might be a bit uneasy at first, but encourage each other to be open. The results can be well worth the effort.
 
get creative
Put some sizzle into your sex life. Dream up new ways to add fun and excitement into your relationship—talk about things that you’d both like to try.
 
Try going to bed early
(when you’re not tired)
Go to bed before you’re tired. Remember: the bedroom should be for sex and sleeping, not for watching TV!
 
be patient
Take time to create relaxing and caring moments. Attention and intimacy are satisfying, whether or not your intention is to spend time in bed.
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recipes for  
romance

Whether you’ve been married for years or recently starting seeing someone new, sometimes you need to add a little excitement in a relationship to get in ‘the mood’.

Luckily, we have a few sure fire ways to get turned on.

 
  • Dim the lights
  • Recreate your first date
  • Surprise your partner with breakfast in bed (apron optional)
  • Try dinner for two at a cozy little bistro (hold hands, lock eyes, shut the world out)
  • Book into a hotel for the night
  • Slip into a candlelit bubble bath for two (lots of candles, extra bubbles)
  • Set the mood with your favourite band or artist
  • Pick up erotic literature to read together in bed (order online or go shopping together)
  • Take a shower together
  • Give your partner a seductive massage
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Foreplay
for everyone

 

Sometimes it’s easy to forego foreplay and jump right into the main event, but there are benefits to taking your time. Foreplay is essential for any man who wants to make sure his partner is ‘warmed up’, especially if it’s been awhile since you’ve both been intimate. Think of foreplay as your opportunity to explore your partner’s body and discover the pleasure you can have before intercourse.

HOW TO GET STARTED

Often when people think about foreplay, they believe the main focus should be on the nipples and genitals, but there’s so much more to get excited about. You can start by gently massaging, stroking, caressing and kissing these parts of the body:
  • neck
  • behind the ears
  • feet
  • calves
  • arms
  • tummy
Use your imagination and spend time on areas that your partner finds the most pleasurable before moving on to the nipples and genitals.

Don’t forget about kissing

Genitals do not have the sensitivity that the lips have. Neuroscientists say kissing can attribute to a rise of love hormones such as Oxytocin and a spike in Dopamine and Serotonin, which are linked to feelings of desire we have when we think we’re falling in love. So you can see how kissing is a very important part of connecting with your partner.
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Take a Position

Amazing sex isn’t limited to the Adonis’ of the world. You can have mind-blowing sexcapades at any age, no matter how the years have treated you. Got bad hips? That’s cool—try from behind. Bad shoulder? Stand up! The secret is to stay positive and get creative. Soon your love life will be no pain and all gain.
 

Position: Lying on the side

Why it’s great: Easier on the hips

If your partner has hip joint pain, then it might be difficult for them to separate their legs. So get creative and do it on your side.
 

 

Position: From behind

Why it’s great: Easier on your hips

If your hips are giving you trouble, it’s important to minimize your range of motion. So let your partner treat you to sex from behind—they do all the work.
 

 

Position: Modified missionary

Why it’s great: Easier on her back

If your partner has back pain, avoid positions that put unnecessary pressure on her spine. Spice up the standard missionary position by placing your legs on the outside of hers.

 

Position: Scissors

Why it’s great: Easier on your back + knees

If your back and knees aren’t what they used to be—then X marks the spot. Lie head to toe, interlock your legs and get frisky.
 

 

Position: Standing

Why it’s great: Easier on the knees + shoulders

If you’re both trying to stay off your knees, it’s time to stand up! This is also great if your shoulder is bugging you because it’s minimal exertion for the upper body.
 

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WRAP IT UP

 
According to a study of sexually transmitted infection data in the UK, adults 45 and older are having more sex than ever before.

In fact approximately 80% of adults aged 50-90 are getting jiggy with it. The bad news? They aren’t being very cautious about it. In the UK study, common sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and HIV infections almost doubled in this age group between 1996 and 2003.

"The older male population, particularly those over the age of 60, experienced a dramatic rise in the rate of reported cases since 1999, although reported rates remain low in this group compared to other age groups."
- Public Health Agency of Canada
This isn’t to say that you shouldn’t be having sex—it’s that you should be smart about it.
  •   Talk to your partner
  •   Wear a condom
  •   get tested
  •   know the symptoms
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love notes

How and what we say can make a difference in relationships, as so many books and articles continually tell us.

Some men just have a way with their words or their actions. Some of us aren’t quite as lucky. While the poetic words on romantic cards work well on a special-occasion note, they may not translate to everyday conversation. So we’ve included suggestions for love notes that may help you with the "How do I broach the subject?" conundrum.

Try a note on the bathroom mirror before supper. Or one on the corner of your partner’s computer. It’s a simple way to show you care and you want to spend some quality time together. Hopefully, they will help you start a conversation.

Everyday Love Notes

  • I love you
  • I am crazy about you
  • Missed you
  • You are still the love of my life
  • Can I take you to dinner?
  • How about a date?
  • I will always be here for you
  • Hugs & kisses xoxoxo
  • Did I tell you today that I love you
  • You are my sunshine
  • Happy Anniversary
  • I’ll do the dishes
  • We’ve had so many good years
  • You make me very happy
  • I love your smile
  • Luv you
  • You make my day
  • Always & forever
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Be a Savvy texter

Casual, easy and non-threatening—the simple beauty of text messaging is changing the way we communicate in relationships. Texting has given rise to new ways of flirting.


Texting your partner can be silly, it can be flirty, or it can be serious. For example, in the middle of the day why not send a flirty message like: “Just thinking about how pretty you looked last night.” Or first thing in the morning send: “Good morning, sunshine!” Or after a couple days apart send: “Can’t wait to see your face later.” You can also text your partner a cute picture—just make sure you aren’t sending something that you will regret later… aka keep your clothes on.

Texting can also be efficient. There was a time when the only abbreviation we used to talk to our “beaus” were XOXOXO for hugs and kisses. These days, especially if you use a cell phone, you’ll see a wide variety of symbols that express the new language of love.

 

The bottom line is that texting is just a new way to communicate. And whether you prefer to say “I <3 u” or “I love you”—the important thing is that you are talking with your partner and rekindling the flame.

Happy dating in the world of technology!

Texting Cheat Sheet

 
  • :* = Kiss
  • AML = All my love
  • CM = Call me
  • D8 = Date
  • DNR = Dinner
  • 4ever = Forever
  • <3 = Heart
  • ILU = I love you
  • KOTC = Kiss on the cheek
  • JFF = Just for fun
  • LOL = Laugh out loud
  • LMK = Let me know
  • LYL = Love ya lots
  • LUVU = Love you
  • OMG = Oh my god
  • CU L8TR = See you later
  • TTYL = Talk to you later
  • TXT = Text
  • 2 NITE = Tonight
  • ;) = Wink
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